Finding The Perfect Balance Between Fullness and Emptiness

Since the beginning of time, water has been considered one of the most vital resources needed for survival. Overtime, has become a symbol of healing, satisfying refreshment, and serenity and that theme has reflected itself in my cross-cultural journey; in Nigeria and in Canada, I lived near the coast. Currently as a Southern Californian, the open water continues to be a short journey away. And in all of these places compared to the one time I lived in a landlocked state, I found that life was the most carefree and refreshing near the oceanside cities.I find that observation as it relates to water to be quite interesting. And in looking at those friendships in those places, they were equally as refreshing. I enjoyed the satisfaction of having the small but tight knit circle of friends who valued me as much as I valued them. Like water, we poured into each other, enjoying our mutual exchange of joy, inspiration, and a shoulder to lean on when life got rocky. With these people, my heart is so full in the best way.

I find that observation as it relates to water to be quite interesting. And in looking at those friendships in those places, they were equally as refreshing. I enjoyed the satisfaction of having the small but tight knit circle of friends who valued me as much as I valued them. Like water, we poured into each other, enjoying our mutual exchange of joy, inspiration, and a shoulder to lean on when life got rocky. With these people, my heart is so full in the best way.

I know there are many of you all reading this who have experienced such a loving exchange from the people we care about most. And I also know that there are times where what started off as a mutual exchange turns into a solo act of you pouring into someone else, eventually leaving you to dry.

And then there is the opposite end of the spectrum, being so engorged with the obsession of your own existence that you see others as beneath you. These kinds of people are drowning in self-absorption and, as irony would have it, they deceive themselves to be God’s gift to all of humanity when the only true recipients of their service are themselves. This water of appreciation that is to be shared among loved ones becomes a drink for one. What was meant to be consumed by yourself and others in a loving give-and-take becomes too much of a good thing. What was meant to be a gentle shower becomes a torrential downpour.

Depending on who you are, you may find yourself relating to one or more of these scenarios I mentioned above. But no matter who we are, finding that sweet spot between fullness and emptiness is a lifelong pursuit where introspection concerning our well-being, consideration of the people that are close to us, and an honest evaluation of our self esteem are needed. I have found these moments to be most beneficial in my life and my hope it that we continue in this healthy journey in this balance as we emerge into the new season of this year.

What are some of the things you do to maintain healthy relationships? What are some ways you maintain a healthy self-esteem? 

Be The First to Know About My FREE Resource Library for Writers!

Dropping this Summer 2017: action-packed workbooks, worksheets, and printables to aid your writing process. Be notified when it launches by signing up below!

I will never give away, trade, or sell your email address. Oh, and I hate spam so I won't spam you either.

Related Posts

  • Mary

    comment

  • Mary

    dsfshj

  • Mary

    sdfsdf